20240914 门训作业(周六)  by 小花

 

创世记 2:18-25耶和华　神说：“那人独居不好，我要为他造一个配偶帮助他。”耶和华　神用土所造成的野地各样走兽和空中各样飞鸟都带到那人面前，看他叫什么。那人怎样叫各样的活物，那就是它的名字。那人便给一切牲畜和空中飞鸟、野地走兽都起了名，只是那人没有遇见配偶帮助他。耶和华　神使他沉睡，他就睡了；于是取下他的一条肋骨，又把肉合起来。耶和华　神就用那人身上所取的肋骨造成一个女人，领她到那人跟前。那人说：“这是我骨中的骨，肉中的肉，可以称她为女人，因为她是从男人身上取出来的。”因此，人要离开父母与妻子连合，二人成为一体。当时夫妻二人赤身露体并不羞耻。

Genesis 2:18-25 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name.The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

作业：上帝设立婚姻的奥秘（驱动力）？

上帝设立婚姻的驱动力是爱，上帝设立婚姻的奥秘是耶稣基督。

在提问“‘那人独居不好，我要为他造一个配偶帮助他。’你首先想到的是什么？”中，将人本和神本的思考基点分清，让我也看见我需要有一个结构思维上的成长，跨越时空思考点、线、面，明白上帝的心意，明白祂的美意，脉络才渐渐清晰极小的一部分，但即便这一部分，也有极大的感动感谢赞美神。

神的创造是甚好的，毫无疑问。只是让我一下子能想到上帝设立婚姻的奥秘是耶稣基督，我的确脑回路有限，我的视角居然不在主耶稣了，一下没有转过弯来，我忘记了我的主，这让我很难过，也又让我看到我的不配与极其有限。

我的婚姻观似乎分为三个阶段：头一个阶段不认识神，不敢随意进入婚姻，父母对婚姻的持守，对彼此的倚靠、信赖与扶持，在任何挑战和困境中对家庭的爱，成为我唯一可信的榜样，但婚姻中不是满眼的美好，生活的困难中有美好，有苦痛、有埋怨，有“亲朋好友”各样的张力……三个字“不容易”，但父母对孩子的婚姻依然有美好的期待，但是亚州文化的偶像剧在80后盛行，让我对爱情的向往充满了虚幻，然后是欧美剧的“自由”，让我心有所望的同时又萌生出不婚也罢的想法，但却渴望“真爱”；第二个阶段对上帝初识初信，真爱难寻难守，认定神在其中，深刻了一男一女一生一世一心一意一夫一妻的观念，知道婚姻需要经营，对神喜悦人婚姻的美好关系认同，追随神，向神寻求方法与秘诀；第三个阶段，我想便是现在，明白婚姻的真理与真实，确信婚姻的意义和指向。

如何阐述上帝设立婚姻的奥秘（驱动力），现在我能联系起来的有三方面：神创造的恩典，神立约的恩典，神救赎的恩典。都是在婚姻关系，人与教会的关系，人与基督的关系，教会与基督的关系中刻画，以基督为核心，彰显神的爱。

一切都在神的全知全能中。亚当和夏娃可能不知道自己会遇见试探，会在试探中跌倒。然而神知道人的一切软弱，容易受诱惑、试探，不论是明知故犯还是无知而犯，不容易经受得住诱惑、试探、谎言、猜疑、不信、小信……引发一系列的罪恶，神允许，神知道我每时每刻的每一个想法、意念、动机，也显出我们的祖先亚当、夏娃……我们，不是完美的，只有基督是完美的，神知道我们会明知故犯或无知而犯，但神有赦罪与救赎的恩典，神已预备了救恩，就是祂的独生爱子——耶稣基督，女人的后裔。

创世记 3:15我又要叫你和女人彼此为仇；你的后裔和女人的后裔也彼此为仇。女人的后裔要伤你的头，你要伤他的脚跟。”

Genesis 3:15 I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.”

教会也不是完美的，只有与元首基督紧紧相连，紧紧相爱为一体才可以完全。整本圣经都是神立约的恩典，始终守约施慈爱的一方——是神，神以基督为人婚姻的奥秘，将我们从罪中赦免，从死中救赎，耶稣基督是唯一的道路、真理、生命。

约翰福音 14:6耶稣说：“我就是道路、真理、生命；若不藉着我，没有人能到父那里去。

John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

神以自己为创造的源头，也为人救恩的出路。

不是因为亚当能力不足无法管理而再需要一个人；也不是因为生理需求亚当需要另一半。是因为神的爱与救赎，在神的计划中，早已定意以完美的独生爱子道成肉身，为人的样式，叫我们学像耶稣基督的生命，耶稣基督如何经历试探胜过试探，耶稣基督如何经历全身心付出而不求回报只求父得荣耀，耶稣基督如何与门徒相处谦卑同住，耶稣基督如何尊父为大顺服父的旨意，耶稣基督如何面对不信不服争吵各样人的心意，耶稣基督如何面对各样的纷争和“主义”，耶稣基督如何面对人的簇拥，耶稣基督如何应对人对祂的需求，耶稣基督如何面对背叛、离弃，耶稣基督如何接纳罪人与罪人同席，耶稣基督如何安慰失丧病痛瞎眼瘫痪悲痛绝望的人，耶稣基督如何面对指责侮辱，耶稣基督如何面对巨大的害怕与恐惧，耶稣基督如何经历受逼迫受难受刑受死，耶稣基督如何祷告……唯有耶稣基督能满足人最深处的孤独和缺憾，唯有耶稣基督能让人得新生命，从死里复活，使人洁净，使神得荣耀，这是神的爱。

马太福音 11:29我心里柔和谦卑，你们当负我的轭，学我的样式，这样，你们心里就必得享安息。

Matthew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

创世记 17:16我必赐福给她，也要使你从她得一个儿子。我要赐福给她，她也要作多国之母，必有百姓的君王从她而出。”

Genesis 17:16 I will bless her, and moreover, I will give you a son by her. I will bless her, and she shall become nations; kings of peoples shall come from her.”

约翰福音 1:1-3太初有道，道与　神同在，道就是　神。这道太初与　神同在。万物是藉着他造的；凡被造的，没有一样不是藉着他造的。

John 1:1-3 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made.

弥迦书 5:2伯利恒以法他啊，你在犹大诸城中为小。将来必有一位从你那里出来，在以色列中为我作掌权的；他的根源从亘古、从太初就有。

Micah 5:2 But you, O Bethlehem Ephrathah, who are too little to be among the clans of Judah, from you shall come forth for me one who is to be ruler in Israel, whose coming forth is from of old, from ancient days.

所以，人结不结婚不是必然追求，接受耶稣基督为生命的救主，紧紧跟随耶稣基督是最正确的决定与追求，有独身恩典的人在独身的恩典中荣耀神，有婚姻恩典的人在婚姻的恩典中使神得荣耀。

无论独身，或是婚姻，创1清晰明了不容置疑地讲了“造男造女”，所以人的性别只有男、女，不容歪曲。

罗马书 1:26-27因此，　神任凭他们放纵可羞耻的情欲。他们的女人把顺性的用处变为逆性的用处；男人也是如此，弃了女人顺性的用处，欲火攻心，彼此贪恋，男和男行可羞耻的事，就在自己身上受这妄为当得的报应。

Romans 1:26-27 For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

独身或婚姻都当以神为乐，感谢神所赐的恩典，以耶稣基督为效法对象，以耶稣基督为唯一满足，力求独身中或婚姻中的圣洁。

在婚姻中当如何遵行神的话语和教导，明白神对婚姻的设计呢，如何看待教会，如何在教会中有合神心意的心思意念言行举止呢，如何看待自己与基督的关系与三位一体的神的关系呢，也更加清晰。感谢神教导我还有机会学习、改变、回转、成长。

以弗所书 5:22-33你们作妻子的，当顺服自己的丈夫，如同顺服主。因为丈夫是妻子的头，如同基督是教会的头，他又是教会全体的救主。教会怎样顺服基督，妻子也要怎样凡事顺服丈夫。你们作丈夫的，要爱你们的妻子，正如基督爱教会，为教会舍己。要用水藉着道把教会洗净，成为圣洁，可以献给自己，作个荣耀的教会，毫无玷污、皱纹等类的病，乃是圣洁没有瑕疵的。丈夫也当照样爱妻子，如同爱自己的身子，爱妻子便是爱自己了。从来没有人恨恶自己的身子，总是保养顾惜，正像基督待教会一样，因我们是他身上的肢体。为这个缘故，人要离开父母，与妻子连合，二人成为一体。这是极大的奥秘，但我是指着基督和教会说的。然而你们各人都当爱妻子，如同爱自己一样。妻子也当敬重她的丈夫。

Ephesians 5:22-33 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

我应当凡事，也就是所有事都顺服我的丈夫，丈夫是我的头，我应当敬重我的丈夫，我应当和我的丈夫是一体，我们是基督的身体，基督爱我们，基督是我们的头。当我心里不同意丈夫怎么办呢？首先，我应当确保我在这个身体里，我没有跑出去，我不应该怒火中烧或是任凭我的心思意念言行举止，我应当警醒祷告以免入了迷惑，我应当全心仰赖神，倚靠神，信任神，我应当向基督求助，或是向教会求助，在神保守的平静安稳中持守与丈夫为一体。其次，我可以向我的丈夫求助，祈求我的丈夫。当有痛苦的过程怎么办？祈求基督，帮助我平静下来，喜乐充满，温柔下来，谦卑下来，帮助我顺服下来，相信神的掌权和作为。祈求基督，按神的心意赐福和带领我的丈夫，帮助我的丈夫，也帮助我平静安慰地等候。我不必要求我的丈夫如何爱我如何爱这个家如何爱基督，我需要尽心尽力尽意尽性爱主我的神，做好我当作的工，不断改变和成长。感谢赞美神！